Tom, When my uncle died a few years back of a terible illness I was so shocked I couldnt speak for days. It was mainly the fact that we knew it was close to his time but just didnt expect it so soon that really got to me. He said he didnt want resuscitating because he'd seen what happens and didnt want his last few moments of life to go like that. I couldnt understand why he'd not want to say goodbye to his family properly if he knew he was going but still they tried to resuscitate him. Your post helped me understand why Liz & Baby Josh