Tom, Thanks for your response. I have had loads of support from mates, both those in the job and those who have no concept of what its really like, thier intentions are noble and that is as much as one could hope for. My crew mate has a baby boy of the same age as the poor lad and he is feeling it a bit more, he's off sick for a few days! But after 27 years doing this game it still don't get any easier. I really appreciate your offer of support, the offer alone is of some comfort. Congratulations on a great site Best Regards Barry