First, don't bother promising to do something "from now on". You won't. Next imagine yourself on your deathbed surrounded by loving relatives & friends and think of all the things you wish you'd said to them. Before Xmas, make time to say them. Finally, still on that deathbed, think of all the things you wish you'd done, including the little stuff. Tomorrow, start doing them. I've lost too many friends in the last few years and too many of them never quite got round to doing the stuff they always said they would when they had time. Make time. Caroline