Wandering through the archives. And to think I always considered myself a feminist. Being a feminist doesn't mean being blind to reality. Differences in average size and strength aside, a man being violent to a woman is in fact more likely to be part of a pattern of domestic violence. (Not that either isn't cause for concern, but it is reasonable to view them differently.) I'd say someone wouldn't be much of a feminist if they didn't recognize existing patterns in society that create this sort of asymmetry.