I used to feel the same. Until I was on the receiving end of a fist. There is never any justification, save self defence, for violence against another, especially a spouse of whatever kind. Those two need to walk away from each other, and the idea of "pressing charges" or not in domestic abuse cases needs to be abolished everywhere. The gunshot, the knife wound, the punch, the slap are all just the snapping end of manipulative and abusive behaviour.