I sympathise. Why is it that the nice ones don't make it and other's do? My partner's sister is an alcoholic although she hasn't touched a drop of alcohol since she was admitted to hospital with advanced cirrhosis (I think that is how you spell it!) of the liver last year. Up to that point some of the family had stuck by her, some had given up on her and some were frightened of her. She had seemingly got to the point of no return - she was and still is living with a chronic alcoholic, her flat was uninhabitable, she sold everything to buy alcohol and had resorted to shoplifting for food. She was red, bloated and unintelligable. Unbelievably, somehow the close call (we were told to expect her to die) turned her around. She found the strength within herself to stop drinking, get well and her goal being to stay well enough to be fit enough for a transplant next year. Ironically, she is still living with her partner who has seizures if he doesn't have a drink for more than four hours, can barely walk or eat and regularly wets himself. At one point, we were all so angry as we thought he would survive her which at the time didn't seem fair as at least she was trying to get well. I can really see that the only person that has helped her get better is herself and it is a remarkable achievement. It worries me that she lives with the temptation of a drink every day. As for her partner, I guess even though he can see how amazing she now is - it isn't enough to make him want to do it for himself. Human will is an incredible thing - it can make or break you.