I know what you mean. We have a nursing home and I once had to go and collect a very agitated and confused resident from outside some shops when he absconded. He was trying to hurl himself out of a wheelchair while lashing out and I was trying to keep him in the chair so he didn't injure himself on the glass covered pavement and not get my nose broken. So all the public can see is a 20 something woman wrestling a bellowing, screeching 1 legged, elderly man in a wheelchair. Disapproving doens't even start to cover it. One woman informed me I was a disgrace to be letting my 'grandfather' out like that. The urge to tell her to piss off and mind her own bloody business was overwhelming! You've got so much more patience than I would ever have!!