I can't believe they thought that was a fair response to what they'd been told?! That's just SO wrong. It's that sort of thing that makes people rubbish the spiritual world. Nobody that gets raped (abused, attacked, murdered...) did so because they "led on" someone to do it to them. Sorry, I'm just in shock that someone would say that to you. Stuff like that makes me embarrassed to believe in the spirit world because you might put in the same box as them. I want to apologise on their behalf, that is just ridiculous...