It's wonderful how all the people who complain consider themselves to be utterly blameless and totally whiter-than-white. Even while drunk and aggressive. I used to know a girl who, one day, came over to me showing me her slightly reddened wrists and sobbing that her boyfriend (a friend of mine) was being violent with her, oh what a bastard, call the police, etc. He followed her round the corner and the exchange went like this: Me: Did you do that to her wrists? Him: Yes. Me: Why? Him: I was holding them to stop her hitting me. Me: (to her) were you hitting him? Her: well, yeah...