Midwives are a funny bunch, well not all midwives! About being grumpy, when I was a student nurse I was on an ENT ward, having just done a stint on a very heavy ward. Was told to go and give a man a bed bath, the only pateint on the ward who needed one,felt very aggrieved because was thinking ,why me, it's not fair etc. Went into his room, picked up flannel and didn't say anything and then I suddenly thought, you cow, you are just about to slap a wet flannel round this poor man's body and you can't even be bothered to pass the time of day with him. So started chatting and in no time felt one hell of a lot better. Hope he did too although my bed baths tended to be a bit soggy if I remember rightly! I think empathy is so important and to do as you would be done by is a fine maxim , oh god sound like a right goody goody now!