and while he's shouting "try to understand and experience how deeply I am feeling!", his girlfriend is not only trapped in the relationship but also is unlikely to be able to get anyone to help *her* as next to him, she cannot get her voice heard. He's not just harming himself, he's harming her too. Can you imagine the mental impact it would have on you to have someone's suicide on your shoulders? The level of guilt that goes with thinking you, in some way, could have prevented a death? To not only have to deal with grief that someone you knew intimately (even if you didn't love them) has died, but to also have all the friends and family looking at you as the cause of his death? Good. Now imagine you have a choice between that, or staying in a loveless, thankless relationship that stresses you out and makes you miserable. Opting to stay in the relationship has a different kind of impact - more "slow-burning" - but both scenarios are damaging. And who does the help go to? Who does the sympathy go to? Why, to the one who makes the most noise. To the one who makes a big fuss. To the one who doesn't consider anyone else's feelings, only their own.