Good one.........and perhaps "shocked" was too strong a word for me to use.....*mental note (haha) made*.........I guess I'm just a bit frustrated/disappointed/sad when I read what looks sometimes like a comment or opinion which contradicts my own experiences on the subject, both as recipient and dishingouter (ooh new word!). "....not everyone who self-harms is mentally ill..." is a bloody good way to put it..... i wish sometimes I could be as succinct!!! /j