In the mid-nineties I had an ex with OCD and a serious fear of the dark. I can't say my ex would NEVER walk through a dark doorway, but suffice to say an excuse would appear if there wasn't a light-switch within reach. Maybe sounds stupid, but have you tried talking up how great hand-held torches are for a while, then giving her one? Worked for my ex, better than I'd hoped - I threw in imagery about X-Files agents, lightsabres, "light defeating evil" and though said ex is a switched-on software engineer - it did the trick! Fear comes from a belief, irrational or not, of loss of control and power - and the ability to conquer it comes from a belief we're capable - or no-one would ever abseil or parachute out of a plane. I hear you on the attention seeking but after thinking (on the back burner) about your post, and my ex, thought I should post this, and if it's useless then it's useless, and I hope I'm not being offensive adding it. :o)