It's pretty well inevitable that there's a dark side, given the accepted practices. The good news is probably that the care outweighs the abuse in most cases. The abuse, like this case, is way more noticeable and painful. What a sad story. What the poor woman really needs is an emergency room for the soul. I can't see the whole "it's the culture" argument for this sort of thing. (I say that as someone who grew up bilingual in two rather different cultures (with one toe in a third, Middle Eastern one), and who's lived in three very different cultures for extended parts of my adult life. So, anyway, I have been outside the "gated community" on occasion.) Sure, there are cultural differences. Middle Easterners have a very different idea of hospitality than, say, Scots. But there's also a real, fundamental line below which human beings are being ground up and spat out, and that's not acceptable no matter whose culture it is. Abuse is abuse. The fact that some communities don't recognize it (yet) doesn't change that fact. Some people think slavery is okay. Some people thought cannibalism was okay. That doesn't make it so.