I can only talk about this frm my experances but throwing them out doesnt always work. It took my mam 3 attempts to get my dad to stay away and then it involved a heavey hitting mate of hers threatening him. Which i would say is the main reason theabuse stay with their abusers for the long term and "allow" it to become a history The first punch can often come in the middle of an arguement or when drunk and the person just excuses it as a mistake and before they no it their excusing it again and again.