"It's not our business to know" is a tad harsh me-feels ... we are readers of Tom's blog which in itself is being curious about other people's business, be it Tom's working day, his patients' aches & pains & moans & groans, or reading other reader's comments in response to his blogs. Tom has, above all, always respected Patient Confidentiality and I wouldn't expect anything less for this lady. I realise such a subject wouldn't be treated light-heartedly. Sorry it came across as such.