Jumping to conclusions is dangerous. After a drunken night out, my boyfriend and I started playfighting in the street, showing off to a mate of ours. We were both into martial arts at the time. The result was a fat lip for me - looked bad but wasn't - and a bruised knuckle for him, amongst other bits and pieces of bruising. The whole thing was a laugh, and not abuse of any sort. Unfortunately, the next day my boyfriend's bruised knuckle turned out to be a broken one, so we went to A&E. He was too embarrassed to say how he'd got the injury, so made up a story about doing it moshing. It was very, very clear, from the glances at my cut lip and uneasy demeanour of the medical staff that they assumed this was an abuse case, and the care he got was poor. So, I applaud Tom for NOT leaping on the obvious assumptions, and considering possible alternatives.