i know exaculty what you mean,i have a very close relitive with dementia, who is in a lovley nursing home, but when i attend these patients as a paramedic i find it very hard, it is heart breaking. only the other day i attended a lady who was of sound mind but had decided that she had had enough of life and had just given up, she wanted to stay at home with her husband, they had never been apart after 65 yrs of marrage, he didnt want her to go any where... so me my tech and the rrv driver made the decision with the family and gp to let her have her wish and stay at home to live her last days with her husband.. and as we did that i laid on the bed holding her hand desperatly tryng to hold back the tears... this job can be so hard some days...