We often come across the relatives at the end of their tether. After one more incident they just couldn't cope with. The social provisions for people like this can be extremely limited but I find the hardest part is persuading the carer that the help is there and they should take it. I believe they feel guilty about passing on the work even though they are physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. I hope this gentleman gets the help he needs to see her through the final part of her illness without becoming ill himself